[Selfless love] would have to mean that you derive no personal pleasure or
happiness from the company and the existence of the person you love, and that
you are motivated only by self-sacrificial pity for that person’s need of you.
I don’t have to point out to you that no one would be flattered by, nor would
accept, a concept of that kind. Love is not self-sacrifice, but the most
profound assertion of your own needs and values. It is for your own happiness
that you need the person you love, and that is the greatest compliment, the
greatest tribute you can pay to that person.